Our Francine Bristo considers how best to tell the children you are separating.

During separation most children feel powerless finding themselves forced to accept change in which they have had no say.  Children find it hard to raise the subject with their parents but they want to be consulted and listened to.

Children usually want to know why their parents are separating.  Set aside some time to tell the children together at home if possible.  Reassure and repeat.  Think carefully about how you will explain this to them, saying that you no longer love each other could cause the child to worry that their parents may stop loving them too.  When discussing the separation with your children it is important to make clear that it is an adult decision and the child is not responsible.  Children benefit from being told that it doesn’t mean that it will change their relationship with each